"Because I said so."
"No means no."
"Because I'm the mom."
"Because I make the rules."
"There is no why."
"Because I'm in charge."
Yep. Same here.
We are all guilty of arguing with our kids. I am guilty almost daily.
While sometimes I am proud of my kids for questioning authority, I want them to respect my rules and be able to take no for an answer without the constant (and believe me, it's constant) push-back....the constant why or why not? the constant so-and-so is allowed! (and my favorite) the constant so-and-so's mom lets them do it!
As much as I try not to fight and/or debate with my kids, I know I do. I try to defend my position as mom, as the leader, as the rule-making, limit-setting, boundary keeper of the house.
And sometimes I lose.
And sometimes I give in.
And it's always exhausting.
When I was in Orlando back in March, I got a tattoo with a fellow Trauma Mama named Allison. Allison got a tatto of a crown on the oustide of her shoulder and when I asked her about the meaning, she simply replied, "The queen never has to prove she's queen. She just is."
Let that sink in for a minute.
"The queen never has to prove she's queen. She just is."
Now I'm sure Allison did not mean to make such a profound statement during a late-night conversation at a random tattoo parlor in Florida but for me, it really made an impact.
That's the beauty of Orlando.
In attempt to resume and retain my roll as Queen of this house, I have rolled Allison's words over in my head at least a bazillion times.
And as luck would have it, I found this awesome reminder at Kirkland's.
I strategically placed this on the window sill behind my kitchen sink where, with the amout of dishes I do, I see it ALL.THE.TIME!
Summer vacation started today and I have already argued with my kids about 10 times.
Clearly, I need more practice being the Queen.
And if you're anything like me, you need more practice, too.
The summer is loooooong and while some of us couldn't wait for it to start, I know other moms are dreading it.
So no matter which category you fall into, get yourself a reminder that you are in control. If you're not up for a tattoo, try lipstick on the mirror, post-it notes around the house, hit Kirklands, don a tiara, or channel Allison. (I'm sure won't mind that you've never met her!)
School is out and it's time to (wo)man up.
I am the Queen of my house and you are the Queen of yours.
We got this!